It's clear that Sam and other members of the team are being impacted by Terry's behavior. We would encourage anyone involved to reach out to SHARE or a Title IX Coordinator for assistance.
In addition, there are many ways for colleagues to intervene, improve the dynamics of this group project, and support Sam. Click on the suggestions below for more information about each strategy.
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You can't intervene if you don’t notice the problem. In this case, you will want to be alert to how Terry is treating Sam and Sam's responses to this behavior, as well as those of other members of the group.
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Even low-key actions can intervene in an uncomfortable situation. Try praising Sam's contributions to the group, or explicitly asking for Sam's input. Indirect interruptions - changing the subject, asking a question - can help end a tense moment.
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Harassment can be isolating and confusing, and people often feel trapped in an escalating situation. Check in with Sam - try a supportive smile in the moment, and a conversation afterwards. What does Sam want to do? How can you help?
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In the moment, others can help you change the subject or pull Sam into conversation. Over time, you can work together to plan more sustained intervention strategies.
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Sometimes, people do not intend to be disrespectful. Try talking to Terry about your concerns, pointing out the impact on Sam and on the group as a whole. If direct conversation doesn’t feel possible, perhaps you can see opportunities for indirect feedback.
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You can sometimes prevent uncomfortable interactions by changing the way the group works together. Without calling attention to Sam, you could ask for clarification on roles and expectations, or suggest new workflows that would balance everyone's contributions.
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Mentors and supervisors can sometimes offer new ideas, or step in themselves. You can always talk to someone at SHARE or in the Title IX Office. Even if a situation doesn't rise to the level of a policy violation, they can help you find ways to address it.